Living for Jesus

Single Motherhood

Written on 15 May 2007 by

My strong advice to all young women is to avoid being a single mother at all costs. That means when you find Mr. Right, you need to think in the long, long term. Will he be a good father? Will he be the kind of husband who makes sure that there is a roof over your head and food on your table? Sure you can take care of those things right now, but when you’re eight months pregnant and you need to take time off from work, will you be able to do that? Or are you attaching yourself to a deadbeat? If he’s willing to live off you now, why would that change in the future?

Of course, that also means that he will in fact agree to marry you without getting “the goods” in advance. If a man is going to be the father of your children, he needs to respect you. You’ll need that respect when your sons reach their teen years. Is Mr. Right the kind of man who will look his sons in the eyes and tell them they will not disrespect their mother? Does he respect his own mother? If he does, he’s almost sure to pass that disrespect on to his sons. Is he the kind of man who will be there when your sons are teenagers or will he have skipped out to greener pastures when the going gets tough?

It may sound stodgy and old-fashioned, but a reliable, responsible, faithful husband is worth his weight in gold. Avoid the guy that makes demands on you that aren’t in your best interest to “show you love him.” How about he shows he loves you by loving you as Christ loved the church? Christ died for the church.

Of course, if you narrow your focus to men who regularly attend church, read their Bibles, pray, and have a relationship with God that isn’t dependent on being near you, you’re much more likely to find a man who will be Mr. Right in your eyes and in God’s eyes. Since God only wants what’s best for you, you’d do well to go with someone He approves.

Being a single mother is harder work than you can imagine. Father’s are important. Whether your children have a true father is up to you. Think long term. Choose wisely. Storms may still come, but you won’t have created storms you could avoid.

Thoughts on Mothering

Written on 13 May 2007 by

Every mother of more than one child has times when she feels stretched in several directions at once–trying to meet the needs of each individual child. In fact, often a mother of one or two who is thinking of having more children asks herself, “Will I be able to handle more than one or two? Will I love each child as much as the first? How will I manage if they all need me at once?” There’s only one adequate response–the same Lord who blessed you with the children will enable you to take care of them!

This article by Tamara Eaton at CHFWeb is great Mother’s Day reading.
Thoughts on Mothering

As the homeschool mother of a houseful, Tamara has the experience to back what she has to say.

I believe the key is to keep our focus on what’s really important and not let other things interfere–our children are only young once and we can let up on housework, laundry, elaborate meals, outside activities, etc., when necessary, to take time to really play with them, read to them, talk to them, listen to them, discern their needs and BE THERE for them!

That’s advice that you can’t take too early in your children’s lives. Because eventually, you’ll come to realize it. Better early than late.

Christian Habits

Written on 12 May 2007 by

I was reading My Utmost for His Highest today on habits. Here’s an excerpt:

Your god may be your little Christian habit, the habit of prayer at stated times, or the habit of Bible reading. Watch how your Father will upset those times if you begin to worship your habit instead of what the habit symbolizes – I can’t do that just now, I am praying; it is my hour with God. No, it is your hour with your habit.

While this is good advice on not letting our walk with God become a habit rather than a relationship, I think more Christians are prone to neither a habit or a relationship. I think we tend to busy ourselves with the business of living and often with the business of doing the Lord’s work that we don’t take time to make daily prayer and communion with God habit.

At best we pray over our meals, which tends to be just what the devotional suggests, not a prayer to God but our habit.

Laridian Bible Software

Written on 12 May 2007 by

My husband bought me a Jornada 728 off eBay or Craig’s list for Christmas. I’d wanted some way to have a Bible software device that was easy for me to see and portable. The Jornada ended up being just the ticket since it allows me to do so many other things as well as use the Bible.

It’s a discontinued piece of hardware and finding Bible software to work on it that I also liked was difficult. We discovered that Laridian had sold Bible software that worked and ended up getting the package by talking with their customer service. I really like it. Laridian also sells Bible software for Palm, Windows Mobile, Ipod, and Blackberry. If those applications are as good as the one for my Jornada, I recommend them. The search function works fast, which the eSword software my husband uses on his mobile device does not do.

Laridian’s website is at

Welcome to Living for Jesus

Written on 11 May 2007 by

Thanks for stopping by Living for Jesus. I hope you find the resources at this site useful. Suggestions are welcome. I’ll be using this blog as a place to post my thoughts on the daily Christian walk. Comments as long as they are polite, are welcome. You’ll have to register to comment, though.

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